No matter how often you might attempt to sway me to accept that you “can’t do it”, I cannot and I will not give up on you! As someone who has zero faith in his own talents and abilities, I have come to learn that none of that matters. What does matter is that so much is gained by just not giving up; by being determined to do whatever it takes, to get what you want.
I cannot tell you how many times I almost gave up; setback after setback. Most of the time it felt overwhelming, but I just kept on going. There were times when I really didn’t know what I was doing or how to do it. Despite my intense fear and insecurities, I believed in myself. When I say I believed in myself, I don’t want you to take that the wrong way. I don’t think that I am the smartest guy out there. I’m not the most talented. I’m sure I’m not even in the top 20% of smart and talented individuals in my own home. I don’t have the best ideas nor do I have all the answers, but I do have a superpower that is unmatched. My superpower is that I don’t know how to give up. I am committed to the idea of out-working everyone. Here’s the real hard part, I only discovered this superpower, when I knew I was going to fail. The odds were stacked against me, my body was completely exhausted, but I kept going. At that moment, I failed. I did not accomplish my goal, but I found a level of determinedness within myself that inspired me and motivated me to push past this imaginary, untrue and intimidating barrier that we all put on ourselves. I quite literally, just took one more step. I kept going. I did not give up. And in this moment, I cried every step I took, because I knew, that each step I took was further and harder than I ever pushed in my life. I was outside of myself. And I know, without a doubt, that once you find this within yourself, you will reach heights that will BLOW YOUR MIND. Some people think that wanting to quit is a sign of weakness; it’s not. It’s ok to want to quit, but, in fact, that is precisely the time that you know that you’re on the right path.
So, what I need you to do right now, is to write down your dream. Read it out loud, then look in the mirror and say “this is going to be hard, really hard, so hard in fact that I’m sure I’ll want to quit, but I won’t. I will work hard until this is done. When I don’t know what to do, I will ask for help, but I will not give up.” Accepting that it is challenging work, and that it will suck, is the first and most crucial step toward progress.
I am fortunate to be living a dream. And mostly it feels like a dream, because I’m just so damn tired all the time. In fact, my son is convinced that I sleep at the gym at night. All of this is worth it, because now I can give to people what I’ve always wanted…a place to call home, a place to shatter the barriers/ideas of what we think is that which we cannot do…a community of like-minded individuals who understand and embrace the value of relentless.forward.progress.
I cannot put into words, the pride I have for what all of us have built here. I know it’s not just me. It’s my family, friends, former coaches, teachers and of course, it’s our members. Damn, let me just tell you the fire that lights up inside my belly, when I get to the gym early, flick the lights on, and see a car parked outside with someone who got there even earlier than me. You inspire me.
I know without a doubt, that you have this superpower as well. I know because I see it. I know it, because I see your smarts, I see your talents, I see your abilities. You have great ideas, we just need that final and important piece…ACCEPTANCE. Accept that it is hard, and that you will never give up.
It’s Hard! So what?